The student volunteers who signed up to assist with our university experience are a treasure of the entire experience:
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iPhone: Charismatic Hipster |
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Kelly: The giggly girl next door |
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Zephia: American culture and language enthusiast |
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Sun1: Honest, hardworking farm girl and ruthless pronunciation coach |
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Sun2: Exuberant teaching assistant with big dreams |
They are bubbly and happy...at first many showed a bit of the Chinese shyness we expected, but they turned out to be far more outgoing! Once they found out we were friendly, the floodgates of enthusiasm opened. Unlike our professors who have a quiet body language and more reserved demeanor, the students are expressive and have a free-spiritedness. The teachers say this is because so much in the country has changed so much in just 10-12 years.

Part of the students' jobs is to show us Chinese culture, but many of the activities we do are "firsts" for the students, too: a trip to the school museum, a walk to Shenmen Temple, seeing the papercutting artist, and attending a Chinese Wedding are "firsts" for all of us. iPhone sneaks us into a wedding he is MC-ing. It's Zephia's first Chinese wedding, too. While iPhone, in a trendy vest and white shirt, is running the show, Zephia is whispering in our ears. "Do you want to get married?...Do American weddings have toasts?" When the groom serenades the bride, she swoons over the romance, and after the wedding she asks Emily and Megan, "
Now do you want to get married?"
Despite an amazing curiosity for Americans and the West, there are mysterious gaps in knowledge of their own culture. At 19, Zephia has never been to a wedding. Even though the "second baby ban" hasn't been consistently enforced throughout China, families have shrunken in size, making things like weddings less common. On another instance, we ask a few questions about the babies' funny split crotch, diaperless sleepers (What happens when they pee? Aren't the parents covered in urine all the time?); neither iPhone or Zephia know because they have never been around babies.


On our third week of classes, we all get a special treat. The head of foreign student services scheduled a date with a papercutter. The students take us to see this artist. Since they have never seen this kind of traditional art being done either, every one of our student volunteers shows up to escort us. The students call the artist Grandma to show respect for her age. Grandma can't wait to share her work with us. She laughs and takes us from one lacy papercutting to another. Almost all those hanging on the walls are in honor of The Party (aka the Communist Party). When Grandma opens her portfolios, however, it falls open to ancient images and legends. All four students excitedly translate for her, but many of the images she points to, they say, "Oh...we don't know this character/story; only old people know this." Many stories and traditions were lost during the cultural revolution, and this generation has not heard many of Grandma's stories.
The young people are hard workers. They are up for required exercise 7 days a week at 6 a.m. In the morning, the campus buzzes with the drone of students reciting their lessons aloud. The students have incredible pressure to succeed, ace tests and ultimately take care of their family whose social security is their offspring. We see iPhone grow pale and glassy eyed as the stress of the semester catches up with him.


Luckily, he plucks up for KTV. The students take us for this pop culture adventure as a going away finale. We head to the city center, and get our own private karaoke room. The students lose all shyness and belt out Chinese and American pop songs loud and shamelessly out of tune. We sing Richard Marx, Chinese songs, Michael Jackson, and Justin Bieber. They serenade us with a Chinese friend song and we serenade them with "Lean on Me." It's an international pop culture love fest.

We saw Zephia most frequently. She regularly brought us treats - bananas, pomegranates, black sesame gruel, moon cakes and weird french fry things that are so greasy they catch fire like a match. She asked questions with genuine curiosity, "Do all Americans have guns or what?" and told us to "Chillax." When she comes to see us off on the night before we head to Beijing, she is a picture of innocence. A sparkly hair bow, braces, pink hoodie, monkey sweatpants, and converse sneakers with cartoon characters painted on the sides. We swap some photos and gab in the living room for a bit. When she says good bye, we all hug and shower each other with, "I'll never forget you!" comments. We walk her to the door and as she descends into the stairwell, we hear her shout, "I LOVE YOU ALL!" before you goes. She texts us the next day, "Bon voyage! Travel safe. My heart is breaking."
Ours, too, Zephia...ours, too.
We laughed so much with these students. They brought us stinky tofu, squid on a stick, and hot, foamy lime jello-like beverages. They took us to cheap, sticky college dive restaurants covered in graffiti. They did little dances and leaps of joys when something delighted them. They helped us mail post cards, climb mountains, take the city bus, buy lotus flowers, and pronounce Ni Hao. They had no agenda except to have an adventure with some Americans and, in turn, gave us the adventure of a lifetime and an honest window into Chinese life that we would never have seen otherwise.


By Megan Kohli